Comments on: How to be a loser http://jsomers.net/blog/how-to-be-a-loser the jsomers.net blog Fri, 11 May 2012 05:02:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Caroline Jones http://jsomers.net/blog/how-to-be-a-loser/comment-page-1#comment-32573 Caroline Jones Sat, 28 Jan 2012 20:05:48 +0000 http://jsomers.net/blog/?p=3#comment-32573 <p>Paul, you dont have a head to hit the nail on! get the head straight first. You said:</p> <p>"You hit the nail on the head. I wonder if I am a naturally born loser. In that case, there’s nothing I can do about it, right? (spoken like a true loser)"</p> <p>i think what jsomers is saying is the fact that you are a naturally born loser is precisely why you CAN do something about it. if, on the other hand, you were a naturally born winner, there would be nothing you could do about it.</p> <p>and by the way, i hate to break it to you, but if losing is your winning, youre already a winner. congratulations!</p> Paul, you dont have a head to hit the nail on! get the head straight first. You said:

“You hit the nail on the head. I wonder if I am a naturally born loser. In that case, there’s nothing I can do about it, right? (spoken like a true loser)”

i think what jsomers is saying is the fact that you are a naturally born loser is precisely why you CAN do something about it. if, on the other hand, you were a naturally born winner, there would be nothing you could do about it.

and by the way, i hate to break it to you, but if losing is your winning, youre already a winner. congratulations!

]]> By: Paul http://jsomers.net/blog/how-to-be-a-loser/comment-page-1#comment-14306 Paul Mon, 25 Apr 2011 17:37:06 +0000 http://jsomers.net/blog/?p=3#comment-14306 <p>Jsomers, thank you for writing this little gem. I have been a loser for a long time now and often wonder why. I had another one of these times today and googled a bit on enjoying being a loser.</p> <p>You hit the nail on the head. I wonder if I am a naturally born loser. In that case, there's nothing I can do about it, right? (spoken like a true loser)</p> <p>I wish there were more smart people like you on the internet to help me figure myself out.</p> <p>I come from a family of losers. My dad is really good at self-defeating and being a loser. While growing up with him, he has taught me all the little tricks about being a loser. Over the years I have grown quite comfortable with it.</p> <p>You're right, winning is hard and stressful. Even being on top of the hill, after the battle is over brings a lot of responsibility. You then have to continue to fight to stay on top and continue being a winner. And then in the end, is it really worth it? You have to work so hard and what is it that you get? A hard life? No thanks. I will just continue being a loser because it's the best return for the effort. Plus, I am always right about predicting the future. I always lose! It feels good to be right.</p> <p>Thanks again, buddy. I hope you don't pity me, it's a personal choice. I also hope you don't despise me or look down on me. And that goes for everyone who reads this. You could have been a loser too!</p> Jsomers, thank you for writing this little gem. I have been a loser for a long time now and often wonder why. I had another one of these times today and googled a bit on enjoying being a loser.

You hit the nail on the head. I wonder if I am a naturally born loser. In that case, there’s nothing I can do about it, right? (spoken like a true loser)

I wish there were more smart people like you on the internet to help me figure myself out.

I come from a family of losers. My dad is really good at self-defeating and being a loser. While growing up with him, he has taught me all the little tricks about being a loser. Over the years I have grown quite comfortable with it.

You’re right, winning is hard and stressful. Even being on top of the hill, after the battle is over brings a lot of responsibility. You then have to continue to fight to stay on top and continue being a winner. And then in the end, is it really worth it? You have to work so hard and what is it that you get? A hard life? No thanks. I will just continue being a loser because it’s the best return for the effort. Plus, I am always right about predicting the future. I always lose! It feels good to be right.

Thanks again, buddy. I hope you don’t pity me, it’s a personal choice. I also hope you don’t despise me or look down on me. And that goes for everyone who reads this. You could have been a loser too!

]]> By: On Class Participation « Red White Waves and Blue http://jsomers.net/blog/how-to-be-a-loser/comment-page-1#comment-3443 On Class Participation « Red White Waves and Blue Tue, 23 Feb 2010 20:36:48 +0000 http://jsomers.net/blog/?p=3#comment-3443 <p>[...] note: James puts a lot of care into writing his essays. They’re very well written. Some will motivate you, and some will make you chuckle and scratch your head. All of them are fascinating. Click here to [...]</p> [...] note: James puts a lot of care into writing his essays. They’re very well written. Some will motivate you, and some will make you chuckle and scratch your head. All of them are fascinating. Click here to [...]

]]> By: Ashok Ghising http://jsomers.net/blog/how-to-be-a-loser/comment-page-1#comment-3396 Ashok Ghising Tue, 16 Feb 2010 05:51:59 +0000 http://jsomers.net/blog/?p=3#comment-3396 <p>how to be a playing game</p> how to be a playing game

]]> By: How to Be a Loser « jsomers.net | danielmiessler.com http://jsomers.net/blog/how-to-be-a-loser/comment-page-1#comment-3393 How to Be a Loser « jsomers.net | danielmiessler.com Mon, 15 Feb 2010 09:44:05 +0000 http://jsomers.net/blog/?p=3#comment-3393 <p>[...] By Daniel Miessler on February 15th, 2010: Tagged as Philosophy If you think of losing as “not winning,” then when you try to work out why you’ve lost, or (God forbid) why you’re a loser, you’ll tend to focus on the things you didn’t do and the qualities you don’t have. via jsomers.net [...]</p> [...] By Daniel Miessler on February 15th, 2010: Tagged as Philosophy If you think of losing as “not winning,” then when you try to work out why you’ve lost, or (God forbid) why you’re a loser, you’ll tend to focus on the things you didn’t do and the qualities you don’t have. via jsomers.net [...]

]]> By: Karen http://jsomers.net/blog/how-to-be-a-loser/comment-page-1#comment-3391 Karen Mon, 15 Feb 2010 03:52:51 +0000 http://jsomers.net/blog/?p=3#comment-3391 <p>Jeremy,</p> <p>Alway nice to know there are other yoga practitioners out there.</p> <p>Crow was easy for me because I've always been a kinesthetic learner. Even then I fell on my face at least twice before I figured out how to make it work.</p> <p>But the idea still holds: getting good at something means learning to get good at it. The learning process is a process, which in and of itself suggest that it takes time.</p> Jeremy,

Alway nice to know there are other yoga practitioners out there.

Crow was easy for me because I’ve always been a kinesthetic learner. Even then I fell on my face at least twice before I figured out how to make it work.

But the idea still holds: getting good at something means learning to get good at it. The learning process is a process, which in and of itself suggest that it takes time.

]]> By: Closer To The Ideal » Blog Archive » Mastery is where the marginal returns flatten out http://jsomers.net/blog/how-to-be-a-loser/comment-page-1#comment-3390 Closer To The Ideal » Blog Archive » Mastery is where the marginal returns flatten out Sun, 14 Feb 2010 15:23:50 +0000 http://jsomers.net/blog/?p=3#comment-3390 <p>[...] To become a master of a skill, you have to go way past the point of diminishing returns: Now the problem with that is that there is nothing more kryptonitic to a person’s Fighting Spirit, and to winning, than comfort. Nobody ever got anything done by being comfortable. If you are not working hard, you are not learning; if you never get past that point when a new project becomes actually difficult, where the marginal returns flatten out, then you will never be a master. Everything worthwhile is going to hurt, and if you avoid pain, you will fail. Etc. [...]</p> [...] To become a master of a skill, you have to go way past the point of diminishing returns: Now the problem with that is that there is nothing more kryptonitic to a person’s Fighting Spirit, and to winning, than comfort. Nobody ever got anything done by being comfortable. If you are not working hard, you are not learning; if you never get past that point when a new project becomes actually difficult, where the marginal returns flatten out, then you will never be a master. Everything worthwhile is going to hurt, and if you avoid pain, you will fail. Etc. [...]

]]> By: Eric http://jsomers.net/blog/how-to-be-a-loser/comment-page-1#comment-3389 Eric Sun, 14 Feb 2010 04:08:28 +0000 http://jsomers.net/blog/?p=3#comment-3389 <p>gahh... I don't like this. I was working on a project, but the essay made me realize its a stupid one, now I don't want to work on it. Please write another article "How to be a winner".</p> gahh… I don’t like this. I was working on a project, but the essay made me realize its a stupid one, now I don’t want to work on it. Please write another article “How to be a winner”.

]]> By: James Somers http://jsomers.net/blog/how-to-be-a-loser/comment-page-1#comment-3387 James Somers Sun, 14 Feb 2010 00:10:56 +0000 http://jsomers.net/blog/?p=3#comment-3387 <p>Glad you liked it! Of course you can translate. Just be sure to send me the link when it's ready :).</p> Glad you liked it! Of course you can translate. Just be sure to send me the link when it’s ready :).

]]> By: dude http://jsomers.net/blog/how-to-be-a-loser/comment-page-1#comment-3386 dude Sat, 13 Feb 2010 23:49:17 +0000 http://jsomers.net/blog/?p=3#comment-3386 <p>I nominate this for 'dumbest comment of 2010', I'm sure there will be many more worthy contenders over the next 10 months -- But I think this should definitely be in the running.</p> I nominate this for ‘dumbest comment of 2010′, I’m sure there will be many more worthy contenders over the next 10 months — But I think this should definitely be in the running.

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